That is the new little "mantra" we say when we feel a "fit" a.k.a. tantrum coming on now. We also have a scream at home rule. Meaning that if we feel angry and we think there is a fit about to start, we just scream it out!
Today we had three times that fits almost occurred. The first time was at breakfast. When she started to shut down and withdrawal/suck her thumb... I went over by her seat and sat down on the floor. Then I looked at her and told her "We don't need any fits today because we have a fun day planned". That didn't really change things. So I then told her she looked a little sad and angry so maybe we should scream a little to let that fit get out of her body. First, I screamed... she quickly followed. Then I said, "Go away fit, she is safe, happy, and loved here!" She repeated it and pretty soon she was back to her fun loving self.
I pushed her chair in, returned to my seat, and my husband looked across the table at me and told me I was amazing. He couldn't believe I had talked her down from a full blown tantrum. He continued to give me kudos throughout the day, which made me feel even more confident!
We had a couple other close run-ins but we tried the same technique and it worked!
We did a lot of cuddle time and movie watching today. We also went to the park with my brother and my only local niece.
All in all, it was a great day! Lots of work, but very good.
As a side note, we are seeing a new primary care doctor in October that has a good level of experience with behavioral issues and anxiety. I really think that if we can solve the anxiety issues our four year old has, that it will in turn help the tantrums. More info to come soon on that!